“Today, I will think positive thoughts about my co-worker, Ted. And I will stop thinking negative thoughts about myself.”
You want to have a more positive experience at work, but one of the most irritating people in the firm is Ted. He gets on your nerves and is getting worse. He is arrogant and self-serving. You notice lately that he seems to be lurking everywhere. You can’t grab a cup of coffee without noticing Ted somewhere nearby. At this point, when you see Ted, you probably have an immediate scowl on your face. You talk to other co-workers about him. They shrug and tell you to ignore him, but you cannot. Why doesn’t he bother them the way he bothers you?
Bingo. That is the right question to ask at this point. Why doesn’t he bother other people the way he bothers you? How can others just ‘ignore’ him? Why is he ruining your day, but not your co-workers?
If you are astute enough to ask yourself these questions, then you are smart enough to change this life experience with one thought at a time.
Changing one thought today will impact all your thoughts for the rest of your life.
📍 HOW TO USE TED AS A TEMPLATE FOR CHANGING ALL YOUR THOUGHTS.
TUTORIAL: Today, I will think positive thoughts about Ted.
Your initial mindset:
Initially, and then continually, you became somewhat obsessed with Ted. Ted, even the thought of Ted, became an irritant in your brain. Before you knew it, Ted was the villain who was ruining your life.
But you were astute enough to realize that the problem was not Ted, it was you. Because if it were Ted, then everyone else would have felt the same as you did.
In this scenario, it was revealed:
That it was you who had the problem, not Ted.
That you have made a plan and a COMMITMENT to change your thoughts about Ted.
How to change your thoughts about Ted:
The old saying, Rome wasn’t built in a day, is to remind you that it takes time to make changes. This includes your thought process. But there is no time like the present day, right now, to start.
Vow to give yourself a two-week run on thinking positively about Ted.
Watch your mindset before you go to work, at work, and after work.
Use visualization to ‘see’ Ted in a more positive light, literally. This involves surrounding Ted in a light shining on him, and then on you also, concurrently.
No matter what Ted says or does, vow NOT to react, except in a positive manner.
When you see Ted, ask yourself: What is it about Ted that I DO like, that I can RESPECT, that is NOT irritating. Find just one thing about Ted that is acceptable to you, and repeat it over and over.
Approach Ted, keeping this positive thought in mind, and vow to accept this change of ONE POSITIVE THOUGHT about Ted.
Soon, Ted is going to approach you and ask you to coffee. Or, you approach Ted and ask him to coffee. ACCEPT EITHER WAY! You go TO COFFEE and have a great time and find out a lot about TED, which is extremely admirable. He likes you, too!
Now, when you see Ted, you wave and move on with your work. Ted is no longer an issue.
You have changed ONE THOUGHT about Ted, which changed everything.
When Ted gets that big promotion and takes you along to the top with you, you will be amazed at how changing one thought at a time really does work.
🔺HOW TO USE THE TED TEMPLATE:
It is easy to understand that by using the “Ted Template” to change your thoughts, you then substitute other concerns for Ted.
For example:
Change: “Today, I am thinking negative thoughts about my coworker, Ted.”
To: “Today, I visualize Ted as a decent human being and am certain he has many positive qualities.”
Change: “I think that I could be a better manager than anyone else here.”
To: “Today, I restructure my belief system about corporate management and see that they work hard and are very smart.”
Change: “I never seem to have enough money.:
To: “Today, I will change my thoughts about my finances, seeing my bank account overflowing with spendable income.”
Change: “I feel lonely and think that I am not liked.”
To: “I am attracting the right people into my life today.”
💛 HOW TO STOP NEGATIVE SELF-TALK
Not only do we engage in negative thoughts about others, but we also consistently do the same with ourselves in negative self-talk. If you find that you are talking to yourself in negative terms and emotions, consider the following.
It is generally true that most people are neither 100% good nor 100% bad, but all humans are mainly a mix of both, with some leaning toward one or the other. But because humans are a mix, each one will do negative self-talk, some more than others.
Recognizing when you do this that you have an alternative choice, you can practice by following the advice above: Don’t say anything to yourself that you wouldn’t say to anyone else. If only that is all you do, you will gain a lot of traction in the mindset conflicts between positive and negative self-talk.
🧘♀️ OF UTMOST IMPORTANCE IS THE ENERGY YOU GIVE TO YOUR THOUGHTS.
Prove this to yourself. Say the following sentence with no emotion, as if you are saying it to someone on the TV screen: “I hate you and never want to see you again. Ever. I am done with you forever!”
Now, say the same sentence aloud, pretending you are saying it to someone you do not like or care about: “I hate you and never want to see you again. Ever. I am done with you forever!”
See and feel the difference that this energy makes in your life.
AS YOU CHANGE YOUR LIFE ONE THOUGHT AT A TIME, remember to watch the energy of your thoughts and how they will manifest more quickly with your energy behind them.
Produce positive energy thoughts to produce positive results!
💛 In prosperity and kindness,
Charmayne
